Tuesday, 27 February 2018

Take Care : The Importance of Self Care

"Take care of yourself"

People say this all the time, but does anyone ever really take notice of this? Does anyone really practise a bit of self care? Now I don't mean just doing the bare minimum like showering, brushing your hair (okay, so I may not actually do this myself), and drinking water. I'm talking about doing the stuff which you enjoy, simply because you enjoy it!
Over the last month, I have truly learnt how important it is to look after yourself, to do things which make you feel good about yourself.

Trying to make the effort to feel good.

I broke my foot earlier this month, and consequently, I've only left the house about three times since, and my head hasn't been feeling too great either. Because of this, I've not particularly felt the need to do anything nice to my hair, to bother putting on make up or wearing any my favourite clothes. Basically, I've done the bare minimum in terms of looking after myself. I just simply couldn't see the point in doing anything more. It was almost as though I felt it would be a waste (of what I'm not even sure) and that I wasn't allowed to feel good about myself without what I deemed a 'valid' reason.

It sounds daft, feeling as though I don't have the right to feel good in myself, but I think this is a genuine issue for so many people I know. This feeling of inadequacy and lack of self-worth which can manifest itself in so many different ways.
Feeling as though you don't deserve a bath because it uses too much water, or not using that bath bomb you have had since Christmas but can't quite justify using it yet, or perhaps even denying yourself that piece of cake because you haven't earned it.

It is blooming ridiculous: yet I still find myself thinking this.

I have actively been trying to combat these thoughts by defying them, and flying in the face of (mental) adversity as I try to treat myself right, so here are a few examples of what you can do.

Have your Hot Chocolate and Drink it too!


I've been finding it really difficult to allow myself to have anything particularly indulgent to eat. Normally telling myself that I haven't been active enough that week, or hit those 10,000 daily steps steps. But the thing is, I could do all of these things and so much more and I would still struggle to justify this to myself. 
So, with a little (a lot, lets be honest...) of help from my Mum, I allowed myself to have a hot chocolate.
Now, I know how ridiculous this sounds, but if you think of the hot chocolate as a metaphor for all things which you feel like you don't deserve then it works pretty well. It isn't an essential, maybe costs a little more, feels a little more luxurious than a standard cup of tea, and makes you smile when you take that first sip. It certainly isn't a necessity, but it is an act of kindness towards yourself. 

Looking after yourself is such an important, yet relatively easy sounding task. So why do so many of us not bother doing it? Why do we put off these random acts of kindness to ourselves, instead preferring to berate and talk down to yourself instead! 

So what I'm trying to say, in a somewhat long winded and round about way is to just be kind to yourself. Buy that bath bomb and apply that body butter even if you don't plan on going out, it is going to make your skin feel amazing!But these small of of kindness towards yourself, and acts of defiance against that part of you which says you aren't worth it!

I would also like to highlight the Young Women's Trust, a charity which can help you deal with these feelings of inadequacy, lack of self worth, and lack of confidence. They really can help you make a change and address the underlying issues and learn ways to cope with these issues.


Work It Out - Coaching is a FREE service for young women aged 16-30 that can help you feel more confident and ready for work. You get your own professional coach who works with you one on one. They can speak to you at times that are flexible, including evenings and weekends.


Thursday, 8 February 2018

Get Glowing: Soap & Glory Speed Plump Night Mousse

Now, who doesn't love having skin which glows from within? Having that healthy gleam about you which cannot be ignored?And most importantly, who doesn't love having skin which gives them the confidence to go without make-up?
Well, today I am going to review a face cream which claims to do all of this and a bit more! The Soap & Glory Speed Plump!


I often find with face creams that they claim all sorts of wonderful things, but never quite live up to these statements, or they will say that it takes months and months of use to see these results. So, I have decided to give the cream two weeks to prove itself. Will it live up to the hype?

What are the claims?


  • Provides intense moisture...Fast!
  • Makes skin look more youthful.
  • Reduces the appearance of fine lines. 
  • Refreshes and revitalises.
  • Softens and smooths.
  • Brightens

 



Day 1


Now, I wasn't expecting much for the first day, because it is the first day, nothing works this quick. So, I was actually quite surprised when several people commented on my skin! My Mum said that it did look a little brighter -  okay, she may be biased but several people made similar comments, so I'm going to take them as fact! My skin definitely felt softer than usual, and the dry patches on my chin lessening slightly. A good start thus far!


Day 3


My skin is definitely developing a bit of a glow about it. It isn't like wearing a highlighter, but more of a look of intense health, something which has been lacking from my life for a good while! This cream was definitely starting to have an impact on both my skin and the way I felt, making me feel confident in myself. It sounds ridiculous that something so simple can have such a powerful effect on you. But I ended that day feeling like Wonder Woman!

Day 6


Confident? Check.
Uber soft? Check.
Brighter than a diamond? Double check!!
I think that I'm on to a definite winner here guys

 

 

Day 9


This has to be one of the most delightful face creams. The bubble technology is amazing, and makes it feels so luxurious whilst applying to your face and neck. Then the smell is simply heavenly! I can't quite pinpoint what it reminds me of, but it is sweet whilst not being sickly or overpowering.


Day 12


I've so far recommended this to several people after forcing them to feel how soft my face is. It may be a bit odd, but you know that feeling when your skin feels like silk and you just have to share it with everyone? This is what I'm permanently feeling like now, and I'm blooming loving it!


 

 

Day 14


So officially, this is end of my little trial, but it certainly isn't the last time I'm using this cream! My skin feels so much better since starting to use this night cream, and not only that, I have developed a serious boost in confidence as a result! It looks visibly smoother with my pores decreasing in size. I feel as though I can't really comment on the fine lines claim, as I only really have them when I laugh.
I certainly felt revitalised and refreshed, with the tightness which I had become accustomed to vanishing!  


Soap & Glory can be found at Boots stores and online at Boots.com!

Click HERE to treat yourself and get your own glow on!

Thursday, 1 February 2018

Time to Talk

I have been wanting (and trying) to write about this subject for quite a while. To stand up, and to speak up. But there has always been something holding me back. A niggling worry, living in the back of my mind, rearing its ugly head whenever I gather a bit more courage. This little voice telling me to shush and act cool. But over the last few months, this need to talk has become harder and harder to ignore. So this is me, Erin, talking about mental health.

Like most people, I have suffered with some degree of mental health problems: namely anxiety and depression. I know that I'm not alone in this situation, because these are entirely human emotions and normal to experience at some point in our lives. Most people, however experience them in more manageable levels with them being fleeting and temporary: may it be in the form of anxiety about starting university, impending exams, or feeling low after going through a break up.
These are normal emotions! So why don't we talk about them? Why are people so frightened to answer the dreaded, 'How are you?', with anything other than, 'I'm okay' ? 

Why is saying, that you feel really down any different from saying that you have a terrible cold? I am guilty of using this nothing answer, and I suppose that this makes me part of the issue. But one of the main reasons that I find myself doing this, like so many others, ironically enough is my anxiety. I worry about the stigma attached to getting anxious, being labelled a 'worrier' or 'neurotic'. I convince myself of all sorts of ridiculous situations, getting myself worked up over what should be an easy and honest response. This is blooming scary, and  just makes the whole situation worse the next time as the fear can grow. 

Mental health can make you feel so isolated and alone, terrified to speak up about what you are feeling. Convincing yourself that it is entirely in your head or that you are imagining these feelings. But you are not alone. There are so many people out there going through things which you would never know just by looking at them. Even the strongest of people can be impacted by mental health issues. A common worry which many sufferers have is that it makes you weak, but it truly doesn't. Suffering from mental health doesn't make you weak, and it certainly doesn't mean that you are any less of a person!
Mental health may be an invisible illness, but this doesn't mean it isn't real or have the potential cause a lot of damage to those who are going through it. Just think of the wind, you can't see it but it can uproot even the strongest and most stable of trees.

But what can you do to help? How can you alone make a difference? 

Sometimes just checking in on your friends, a simple text asking them out for a coffee, making them aware that they are not alone and able to talk to you about things! Because when you start that conversation, you don't only help them, but you help yourself. too. You conquer the initial worry about being judged, and make the next conversation that much easier. Remember, it's time to talk.

Art courtesy of the incredible Rosie Chomet. Click here to be taken to her instagram page which includes many more of her amazing images.


Mental health helplines




Whether you're concerned about yourself or a loved one, these helplines can offer expert advice.

Anxiety UK

Charity providing support if you've been diagnosed with an anxiety condition.
Phone: 08444 775 774 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5.30pm)
Website: www.anxietyuk.org.uk

Bipolar UK

A charity helping people living with manic depression or bipolar disorder.
Website: www.bipolaruk.org.uk

CALM

CALM is the Campaign Against Living Miserably, for men aged 15-35.
Website: www.thecalmzone.net

Depression Alliance

Charity for sufferers of depression. Has a network of self-help groups.
Website: www.depressionalliance.org

Men's Health Forum

24/7 stress support for men by text, chat and email.
Website: www.menshealthforum.org.uk

Mental Health Foundation

Provides information and support for anyone with mental health problems or learning disabilities.
Website: www.mentalhealth.org.uk

Mind

Promotes the views and needs of people with mental health problems.
Phone: 0300 123 3393 (Mon-Fri, 9am-6pm)
Website: www.mind.org.uk

No Panic

Voluntary charity offering support for sufferers of panic attacks and OCD. Offers a course to help overcome your phobia/OCD. Includes a helpline.
Phone: 0844 967 4848 (daily, 10am-10pm)
Website: www.nopanic.org.uk

OCD Action

Support for people with obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD). Includes information on treatment and online resources.
Phone: 0845 390 6232 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-5pm)
Website: www.ocdaction.org.uk

OCD UK

A charity run by people with OCD, for people with OCD. Includes facts, news and treatments.
Phone: 0845 120 3778 (Mon-Fri, 9am-5pm)
Website: www.ocduk.org 

PAPYRUS

Young suicide prevention society.
Phone: HOPElineUK 0800 068 4141 (Mon-Fri,10am-5pm & 7-10pm. Weekends 2-5pm)
Website: www.papyrus-uk.org

Rethink Mental Illness

Support and advice for people living with mental illness.
Phone: 0300 5000 927 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-4pm)
Website: www.rethink.org

Samaritans

Confidential support for people experiencing feelings of distress or despair.
Phone: 116 123 (free 24-hour helpline)
Website: www.samaritans.org.uk

SANE

Emotional support, information and guidance for people affected by mental illness, their families and carers.
SANEline: 0300 304 7000 (daily, 4.30-10.30pm)
Textcare: comfort and care via text message, sent when the person needs it most: http://www.sane.org.uk/textcare
Peer support forum: www.sane.org.uk/supportforum
Website: www.sane.org.uk/support

YoungMinds

Information on child and adolescent mental health. Services for parents and professionals.
Phone: Parents' helpline 0808 802 5544 (Mon-Fri, 9.30am-4pm)
Website: www.youngminds.org.uk

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